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Time is of essence here. My daughter has already reached the school age and my changes of being able to reconnect with her is getting slimmer by day. Hence, this route…
This is the highly cut-down version of a
Despite having some complaints, I was living a good life in Europe as a globally highly sought after 28 years old professional. Around 2010, my back-then employer invited me to Canada to help them assist filling in the competence gap in their local workforce. The biggest selling point they were offering was the promise of the Canadian Government about starting a new and better life in Canada, a life free from discrimination (which was my biggest concern in Europe). They were putting forward certain conditions to be eligible for that promise, and based on what was in the law back then, I was meeting those conditions with ease. Long story short, I believed in the Canadian Government’s promise and took the offer by abandoning my good life in Amsterdam.
After a couple of years in Canada, I started a family here by continuing believing in the promise, and the first thing the Canadian Government did was to frame one of the most embarrassing crimes of domestic violence on me. I call it “framed” because of the police’s clear racial discrimination against me while handling the case; and the fact that the Canadian Government does not allow me to produce evidence to prove my innocence in the case to clear my name, to this date.
While dealing with all that, I also had to deal with my immigration process to ensure that I could stay in the country. Right before I could finish gathering the mountain of documents they asked for my permanent residency application, the Canadian Government broke the contract by changing their immigration law, and put me into an ineligible position for a permanent life here. The fact that I already had a child, a child who wasn’t even 2 years old, did not matter. They simply denied my right to work and ask me to leave the country because I did not fit the bill anymore.
I kept fighting of course, I fought to stay with my daughter because I knew that if I left the country it would have taken me years to come back. Which meant abandoning my infant child and leaving her with a mentally ill (doctor assessed), abusive and morally corrupt (by universal standards) mother.
I reduced my cost of living to the point of being homeless for a while and starving myself, so that I could remain in the country for as long as I could and buy food for my daughter when I had her with me. So that my daughter could have what she needed the most at that age: the irreplaceable care and love of both her parents to grow up to be a wholesome adult without feeling abandoned.
My fight to stay in the country had to come to end eventually of course. And it happened when a judge ordered me to pay the last cent in my pocket to my ex and forced me to leave the country by telling me that me leaving the country was better for my daughter (See the “Compound Discrimination” post for more details.). He said that I was being a bad father by not providing for my daughter. Let that sink in for a moment… First, the Canadian Government denied my right to work and then they told me that I was being a bad father by not providing for my family…
After they forced me to leave their country, I found a job as a manager at a global tech company and I started providing for my daughter from abroad. I was also saving money to hire an immigration lawyer to deal with the unjust decision of the Canadian Immigration Office. However, the Canadian Government wasn’t done with me yet: they released misleading information to a background check company and cost me my hard-found job, financial stability and my only chance to get back to my daughter.
Then, when my mentally ill former wife started to act against the existing court orders and abuse my daughter even further by not allowing her communication with me, they both refused to enforce the court orders by telling me that I had to make an in-person complaint at a police station, and then denied my visa application to do so. Needless to say, this is against the international laws they swore to abide by.
Then, when I acted on the matter myself in desperation by publicly exposing the crime, they threatened to criminalize me by sending their police force after me.
Then, when I insisted on going after my infant child, they actively and willingly helped a mentally ill criminal kidnap and abuse my daughter.
They refused my visa application to attend their courts to seek justice.
After not being able to see my daughter for two years, I took a CTO position at a very small Canadian tech consulting company (small enough to not do any background checks) in order to be able to get back to Canada. And here I was again, back to the land of the just and kind…
The first thing I did was to hire a law firm with the small amount of money I could save working abroad. Simply put, this law firm (Feldstein Family Law, https://www.separation.ca/) scammed me out of that small amount of money I had and left me naked in the deadly Justice System of Canada. (Stay away from those blood-sucking leeches at all costs!)
I kept fighting the legal system alone and made a ton of procedural mistakes initially. This allowed my ex to hire a more competent lawyer and play all the games she possibly could, with the constant, dedicated help of the willing Canadian Government.
The Canadian Government kept stepping up their game and found me in contempt of the court orders -that were made in motions that I was not allowed to attend by their immigration office- based on the fact that I could not pay much child support during the time I was forced to unemployment by them, and that I had violated no-contact orders by trying to get in touch with my daughter after they had organized and funded kidnapping of her.
Now, after fighting and “surviving” the forced unemployment, homelessness, starvation, humiliation,
In short, this is a racist, sexist, rapist, child-abusing, torturing, immigrant exploiting, monstrous government. And I am not their only victim. I met so many who had gone through at least some of what I have. I met so many whose children have been repeatedly abused by this government.
They left me no choice but to take it to the Canadian Public and ask for their sympathy. Because, I know that they feel my pain. Every single Canadian out there, man or woman, who has heard only a fraction of my story cannot help but share my anger against this rouge government, and express their will to help in any way they can. They know that so-called the Justice System of this country is corrupt and nothing more than a political tool, and someone has to stand up to it.
I have no choice but to fight this system, not because I have the delusion of grandeur, but because I am desperate.
Some of you might imagine how hard it is for me to admit that any cause in this world is bigger than my own daughter. But the fact is that, even if I get justice for myself and my daughter, I cannot give up this fight. How can I go to bed and have a good night’s sleep by knowing that there are children out there being abused by this monstrous government, by knowing that there are parents who have been separated from their children for no reason other than the lethargy, incompetence and bias of this government? How can I see the tears of a child asking for her father and being shutdown by an unfit parent -a parent who abuses her own child and gets away with it- and do nothing about it?
The ones who will not fight for their children: you don’t deserve your children! You are the reason
The good ones, the ones who will not put their own interests before their children: know that this fight is not only for my child. Know that that boy you keep high above anything else will grow up one day and meet someone who can take from them what hey love the most. If you do nothing, when that happens, you will bear the guilt of complacency.
I don’t have much left, and there is not much of me left. But if you find me, if you write to me, whatever I have left, whatever is left of me is yours. If you want, I’ll help you find your father; if you want, I’ll be your father. And together we will fight the monsters that took your father away. Keep smiling, because that’s the only thing that makes this world going.
I am an immigrant who has lived in multiple countries throughout his life, a CTO, a failed theoretical physicist, an entrepreneur, an inventor, an AI enthusiast
I am a father whose daughter has
No, I am not angry. I am
It doesn’t matter where this all
This is much, much easier than it sounds. All you need to do is to create a fake email and take it to the nearest family court:
Your ex will absolutely have no idea about what’s going on until it is too late. As I mentioned above, public servants of Canada have much more important duties than protecting your child or worrying about family matters.
If you want to remain in Canada and just move to a different province and don’t want to get into legal trouble, just delete your email account to gain plausible deniability by eliminating the chance of your ex proving that you faked the email. By the time your ex realizes what’s going on and obtains an order to get your email service provide their logs (if this happens at all) your email service provider will have very likely purged their logs (if they keep them at all), hence no one will be able to prove that you faked the email. No, the fact that your ex doesn’t have the same email in their “sent folder” is not enough to prove that the communication did not happen, they could have simply deleted the email.
All that legal hassle your ex has to go through to gain access to your child again will give you ample time to alienate and brainwash your child into hating your ex and damage their relationship irreparably.
Remember the questions I asked in “Drawing the line“? The potential answers that I had in my mind -in the deepest, darkest corners of it- and what that mind is capable of; and knowing that there are thousands, if not millions out there who are capable of the same things; and knowing the correlation between losing access to your child and the suicide rates are the reasons why I am doing this exposé:
I am very well aware of the fact that what I am saying here will sound more than outlandish, more than fiction-esque, or even worse to the great majority of the public, to those who hasn’t been involved in the world of high-tech industry or science. I will bear those label if that’s what’s required, because someone has to.
You either don’t take me seriously and call me names, or freak out and call me names, or see me as an opportunity, learn from my experiences and take corrective measures. It is all up to you, but I genuinely fear that what a single individual can do with today’s technology when stripped off of their humanity and sanity might be the end of the most of us. Thus, I have to go public with this.
Look at the very commonly referred to price of technology chart below:
This chart applies to almost any technology. As the time passes, the cost of technology goes down, and it goes down dramatically. Imagine the cost of the first computer and how it compares to the computer in your pocket today, from both capability and price perspective. If you flip this chart on its Y axis, what you get is a curve going up extremely fast, the curve of the destructive capabilities of an individual. Given this level of accessibility, an individual who can create and/or utilize tool/devices by using biotech, nanotech, microchips, AI, cyber security, physics, chemistry, etc. is an individual who can cause a great deal of problems for the whole world. Because no one would suspect an ordinary scientist or engineer, no one would see it coming…
This chart causes a great fear in me when I think about what myself and my daughter have been put through by the Canadian Government. What would a different person with the same capabilities do if their infant child was kidnapped by a foreign, rogue, monstrous government if they were also humiliated, tortured, indignified, dehumanized and enslaved by that government for long years? By looking at the data provided by the Canadian Government showing the correlation between divorce rates and suicide rates, I wonder if they would, if they could show the restraint I did. What if something were to happen to their child in captivity, something to give them the last push over the cliff of hopelessness?
Imagine a government like Saudi Arabia forcefully removing your child from your care and forcing her to live with a mentally ill parent, a parent whom you know to be violent and morally corrupt; and prevent you from ever seeing your child again by using their armed forces. Imagine the same government taking everything from you, forcing you to homelessness, forcing you to starvation, humiliating you and taking your and your child’s future away by releasing false information about you to the public. Imagine going from having a perfect life to ruins just because a third-party sees that fit for you and your child. Does your blood start to boil and mind go blank yet? Let me tell you this, whatever you are feeling is not it. That’s nothing compared to what the real feeling is. Seeing your child abused by a third-party causes a different kind of rage, a rage that goes beyond the primal survival instinct. There is absolutely nothing like the instinct of protecting your child and the monster it awakens inside you.
And now imagine this going on for long years. Imagine becoming numb, losing your humanity; suffering unimaginable things along the way because of what that government did to you and eventually losing hope. Imagine exhausting all the options and knowing that your child will be raised by an abusive, mentally ill, morally corrupt person. Imagine knowing that your child might not even survive that person’s care…
Now imagine that you have the capabilities and the means to bring that government down to get your daughter back. Imagine knowing that you can cause tens of billions of dollars financial damage and cause great suffering, or worse, to the employees of that government on a shoestring budget. What would you do? Would you go for it if you also knew that you could potentially hurt innocent people in the process?
I certainly couldn’t. More than that, I made sure that I couldn’t by screaming about it out loud, by making sure that the people who can stop me knows about the potential if I ever gave in to the madness that knocked on to my door very single day. But I know that someone will give in to that madness, someone will take the easy route and take it all on innocent people. Because it is so damn easy.
In how many ways a single individual can irreversibly damage the life on planet earth? In how many ways can a single individual take down a government? I can definitely count more than one, and I am not the most knowledgeable person around, not by a very large margin.
There will never be a blanket solution to all the potential threats, but there are so many measures we can take to create a thick layer of protection.
We should first eliminate injustice as much as possible to not drive people to the point of madness. Thus, the starting point should be the justice system and the way we govern people. I will talk about those in more detail in a different post but, for now, I can give you a hint at least: Artificial Intelligence.
Then there is the way we do trade, the way we share knowledge and the freedoms that we take for granted today but cannot exist in the future. We keep focusing on the locally impactful issues like gun control while biotechnology labs for unrestricted public use are popping around the world, and the ingredients of disastrous technologies are being sold for dirt cheap on Ebay and the darkweb.
Where does a father draw the line between protecting his child from abuse and trying to heal his mentally ill, narcissistic / megalomaniac (assessed by a doctor of psychology) wife after years of struggle? To what extend should he go in confronting his wife to put an end to the abuse she is subjecting her own child to? What can he do against the tyranny of a government that not only separated him from his baby and put him through immeasurable humiliation and suffering, but also helped his mentally ill wife to kidnap his daughter when this government is also the government of the country he has to immigrate to to be with his baby?
I ask you, especially you Canadians, what would you have done if a government scammed you out of your good life with lies, took everything you have, enslaved you, tortured you, dehumanized you for years; forced you to making a choice between starvation and homelessness, and being with your infant child; most importantly, helped kidnapping of your child and made it impossible for you to get her back with illegal, inhumane games? What would you do to that government if you were capable of responding in kind? What would you do if you have tried every legal option under the sun and nothing worked? Would you rather be a good mother or father and force that government to return your child by using all the means available to you or would you rather be a good human being and abandon your child by either ending your own life as some do or by running away?
I chose to fight until I exhausted every possible option under the sun to get back to my daughter through legal channels. I’ve spent over 5 years to set things straight yet haven’t been able to see my daughter for 3 and a half years now after she was kidnapped by her mother and the Canadian Government. I chose to be a good man over being a good father and did not retaliate in kind, in the way that this racist, sexist, rapist, child abusing, immigrant exploiting, lawless, monstrous government deserves.
Give me an honest answer Canada, what would you do if a foreign, rogue government, let’s say Saudi Arabia, has done all that to you and to your child? Have I made the right choice?
There are a ton of problems from income inequality to corruption to injustice that need to be addressed globally, problems that create constant conflicts and pose a threat for the future of global social peace. Yet we don’t seem to be able to take even a single meaningful step towards solving them for centuries. The same problems created the monstrous government that led to our forced separation too my love. Hence, I will write about what I believe to be the most realistic solution here.
I believe the underlying reason for the inability to solve these problems is self-inflicted and roots from our habits. We are tribal creatures and so are our governance systems. Even in this day and age we still seek a leader who is a strong, charismatic parental figure we can look up to. Hence, we let a handful of individuals lead the seven and a half billion of us into a future full of conflict and suffering, into the certain failure of our civilization.
We came from small tribes that were lead by strong men, hence we didn’t see a problem in uniting in larger numbers and putting just another strong man in charge. Then we rediscovered the idea that everyone should have a say in who that strong man is going to be. We replaced kings with presidents by thinking that we were solving the problem without even realizing what the root-cause is: the way we distribute power, and ignorance.
Concentrating the power to only a few hundred people in each country makes them easy targets for the groups that want to take advantage of them and steer the system to the direction beneficial to themselves. The so-called checks and balances system is clearly ineffective as we have seen repeatedly across the globe. Hence the corruption, hence the paralysis… There is only one way to overcome this issue, and that is to distribute the power to the point of making it meaningless, making it hard to control. Controlling a few hundred representatives through offering benefits or otherwise does not seem to be an issue for those self-interest groups. Let’s see how will they deal with tens of thousands of representatives.
No more one-man leaderships, no more entrusting only a few hundred of us to determine our future. A healthy and corruption-resilient governance model is the one in which we balance the representative and full democracy models, in which we allow an individual to represent only the number of people he/she can directly maintain contact with and represent accurately. A democracy in which the leadership is entrusted to a large group of people rather than an individual.
I believe that in well-educated and less populous countries – such as most of the Central and Western European; and all the Nordic countries – this ratio can be as low as 1-to-1000. In populous, less educated countries and/or countries with tribal inclinations – such as Turkey, India, Japan, the United States, Brazil – this ratio can be lower, lets say 1-to-10000. No, we cannot, we should not go full democracy or entirely rely on AI as some contemplates. Those are dangerous paths for different reasons.
Yes, we will lose efficiency in some already inefficient legislative processes, but take it from this efficiency freak in everything he does and owns, this is a worthy tradeoff. Arriving at a healthy future slowly should be more preferable to all rather than arriving at a dystopian future speedily. Having said that, we can also gain efficiency in many areas by creating smaller and specialized legislative units that does not require attendance from all representatives.
There of course are certain aspects of governance which requires immediate action or secrecy, such as responding to threats or gathering and sharing intelligence. For those, we will come up with smaller groups of governance that are more agile, but still without much power.
For the second part of the problem: No, I do not believe in everyone having a right to vote on every matter either. I find this principle dangerously romantic, disconnected from reality. When was the last time anyone sought advice from an 18 years old for managing their investment portfolio, or advice from a farmer for shaping international relationships, or advice from a music teacher for which crops to subsidize? And no one should, unless those individuals demonstrate a certain level of understanding of those topics. Likewise, no one should have a vote in determining what the future should be for everyone in the matters they don’t grasp. People should earn the right to vote by passing a civic exam which targets educating the public in every field of life, an exam they can take as many times as they like. Yes, we are capable of coming up with a / a few fair civic exam model(s) that could be applied to the majority of the world, if not all. We are capable of creating social structures that will give a chance to everyone to experience more, learn more, have more, share more, love more, tolerate more.
An alternative to this would of course be allowing everyone to vote on all the matters by giving their votes a different weight based on their civic exam scores.
A stretch “goal” would be to having multiple governance models and laws applying to different groups with in the same society, based on their preference and not their geographic location. This is already the case for certain groups in certain countries, such as the native folks of Canada. This is basically just taking the federalist government model of the United States and defining the states based on people’s governance preferences rather than their geographic location. This would especially help countries such as Turkey where there is a clear division within the public’s opinion of what the way of living should be, where some groups are forced to abide by values they find offensive/torturous/inhumane because of the fear of a non-unitary governance model leading to loss of hegemony in certain geographic regions.
This is an achievable -as exampled in certain cases- but yet rather complicated way of governance. Therefore, I deemed it a stretch goal and put it as the bottom of the priorities.
I believe once we fix the fundamental issue of fair, just and correct governance the rest will unfold. Once we see we can solve millennia old problems, we will grow confident, mature and learn how to live together better.
There is a ton to read between the lines in this writing. It is certainly not well-planned and more of a brain-dump than an article. Unfortunately, I am running out of time and have to move on with the hope that I will be able to fill in those lines later on, or you will find this writing and pick it up from where I left my love.
The text below is what I submitted to the Canadian Courts as a part of my affidavit, which lists the international laws the Canadian Government has been violating.
The Canadian Government systematically abused me and my daughter and raped both my and my daughter’s rights for long years. This monstrous rape must stop.
The Canadian Government has been in violation of 13 items from the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, 22 items from the Convention on the Rights of the Child, 12 items from the International Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Racial Discrimination and 6 items from the International Covenant on Economic, Social and Cultural Rights.
That is 53 crimes committed in total against me and my daughter by the Government of Canada. That is 53 violations I could find in the 4 texts I could read through as someone who has no legal background. I am certain I could find more violations in different international agreements if my heart could take reliving all that has been brought upon my daughter and myself by the Canadian Government.
The items violated from the Universal Declaration of Human Rights are: 1, 2, 5, 7, 8, 10, 11.1, 11.2, 12, 16.1, 23.1, 25.1, 26.3.
The items violated from the Convention on the Rights of the Child are: 2.1, 2.2, 3.1, 3.2, 4, 5, 7.1, 7.2, 8.1, 8.2, 9.1, 9.2, 9.3, 9.4, 10.1, 10.2, 14.2, 18.1, 18.2, 19.1, 19.2, 39.
The items violated from the International Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Racial Discrimination are: 2.1.a, 2.1.c, 2.1.d, 2.2, 4, 4.a, 4.b, 4.c, 5, 5.a, 5.b, 5.e.i.
The items violated from the International Covenant on Economic, Social and Cultural Rights are: 6.1, 6.2, 7.a.2, 10.1, 11.1, 11.2.
Canadian government will answer for their past crimes against me and my daughter at the international arena and I ask that they stop committing further crimes.
The Canadian Government cannot keep denying my right for a fair trial and enforce orders that were made in motions that I was physically prevented from attending to by their own immigration office or I was not served for at all, nor it can find me in contempt of those orders for the very same reasons.
The Canadian Government cannot keep holding my daughter hostage, this is a violation of both her and my rights.
The Canadian Government cannot keep ignoring my claims of my ex’s mental health problems and her violent nature. They must dedicate resources to investigate these claims for protecting my daughter’s well-being, who is a Canadian citizen, or recuse themselves from the case by admitting to their inability to provide justice and safety for my daughter and let the international courts handle the case.
The Canadian Government cannot deny me the right to prove my claims to seek justice by denying the order to allow Dr. Harrison to produce a report of his observations of my ex’s mental health. I have contacted the my ex in the past for getting her to sign the information release form multiple times, but she refused to do so to this date. This is a clear sign of her fearing the content of the report proving my claims and her attempt to mislead the court and obstruct justice.
The Canadian Government denied me fair chance of defending myself at the court by crippling my financial ability to hire professional legal assistance by denying my right to work, denying my legal aid request and denying my entry to the country physically to represent myself.
The Canadian Immigration Office rejected the visa application I made with the explicit intent of attending to my family matters at the Canadian courts. This was another attempt by the Canadian Government to cripple my chances of defending myself at a fair court process to protect their own.
This visa application was rejected on 3 grounds: that the date I was asking my visa to be valid until had already passed by the time the Canadian Government could process it, the visa officer was not satisfied that I was a genuine temporary visitor (this is typical reason the Canadian Government put forward for rejecting visas for people who has family in Canada or who has expressed their intent to permanently immigrate to Canada in a prior application), and I did not have enough funds to support myself.
The Canadian Government did not only refuse to act on the abuse of my daughter by the applicant but also actively facilitated kidnapping of her by helping the move of my ex from the province of BC to ON. Moreover, when I acted on the situation by exposing my ex publicly to force her stop abusing my daughter, The Canadian Government sheltered and protected her and threatened to criminalize me for my attempts to protect my daughter.
By discriminating against me based on my race and sex, and not acting on my complaints as such, the Canadian Government has violated the clauses 1, 2, 7, 11.1, 11.2 and 12 of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, the clauses 2.1 and 2.2 of the Convention on the Rights of the Child, the clauses 2.1.a, 2.1.c, 2.1.d, 4, 4.a, 4.b, 4.c, 5, 5.a, 5.b of the International Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Racial Discrimination.
By denying my right to work and provide for my child and for myself, and forcing me to make a choice between abandoning my child or facing homelessness and starvation, the Canadian Government has violated the clauses 5, 23.1, 25.1 of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, the clause 18.2 of the Convention on the Rights of the Child, the clause 5.e.i of the International Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Racial Discrimination, the clauses 6.1, 7.a.ii, 10.1, 11.1 and 11.2 of the International Covenant on Economic, Social and Cultural Rights.
By refusing to enforce the court orders that were made by their own courts, refusing to take action on my claims of abuse and refusing to restore my parental rights, the Canadian Government has violated the clauses 8, 12, 16.1 and 26.3 of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, the clauses 3.2, 4, 5, 7.1, 7.2, 8.1, 8.2, 9.1, 9.3, 9.4, 10.1, 10.2, 14.2, 18.1, 18.2, 19.1, 19.2 and 39 of the Convention on the Rights of the Child.
By making orders in trials which I was not served properly for and/or prevented from attending to by their immigration office, in short by denying me my right to a fair trial, the Canadian Government has violated the clauses 10 and 11.1 of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, the clause 9.2 of the Convention on the Rights of the Child.
By acting against the best interest of my child at every step, the Canadian Government has violated the clause 3.1 of the Convention on the Rights of the Child.
As per the Article 8, Clause 2 of the Convention on the Rights of the Child, the Canadian Government must immediately restore my parental rights and assist in reestablishment of my daughter’s relationship with me.
As per the clauses 10 and 11.1 of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, the Canadian Government must immediately declare all the orders made by the Canadian courts after I was deported void and null.
While handling the domestic violence incident that led to the breaking down of my marriage and collapse of my life, instead of checking my body to verify my claims of being assaulted, the Canadian Police opted to give me relationship advice: “relationships between middle eastern men and western women do not work”. Not a letter short, not a letter extra.
I am not judging the statistical correctness of this statement, as I wouldn’t know, but where the Canadian Police placed themselves in social dynamics and how they had classified me in their minds by only looking at the place of my birth: a natural-born wife-beating middle eastern Muslim. Needless to say, their treatment of the incident was exactly through that lens of racial discrimination.
I know that my words alone won’t mean enough to prove my claims against the Canadian Police. However, I am both saddened and encouraged by the fact that I’ve met several others who had very similar encounters with the Canadian Police and I am certain that a brief investigation in to the matter would reveal many other cases similar to mine in nature. And that should at least be enough to prove that there is enough smoke to look into the matter in more depth for the benefit of the Canadian Public. Investigating racial discrimination claims is what the international law the Canadian Government vowed to abide by dictates, anyway.
The racist and the sexist discrimination I’ve been subjected to by the Canadian Justice System cannot be attributed to a single individual or incident alone. The best way I can describe what I experienced is with the term “compound discrimination”. Akin to compound interest adding interest to the previously accumulated interest, the compound discrimination grows at each exposure by adding on top of the previously accumulated discrimination. This is exactly what led an empowered, unchecked, out-of-line judge to making a final order during an uncontested trial – a trial to which my request to take part in was denied by the Canadian Government – to take my parental rights away and not just to violate the international law but also to abandon basic human values.
I have consulted to several lawyers at the beginning of my attempts to reunite with my daughter in order to make sure that I was following the right track and every single one of them found the final order made by Judge Paisley going too far. In a particular case, after reading the final order that was made by Judge Paisley, one of them reacted by slapping his forehead in frustration and out loud saying “This … should be taken off duty at this point. He is not being smart, not being smart at all.”.
Was this lawyer simply trying to get my business by showing false empathy and hoping that I would fall for that? Possible. But that wasn’t the impression I got from his tense eye line, clenched jaw and the tight fist he made with his hand. I think it was the opposite, I believe he was holding back and trying to act professional to not give the image of a hot-headed lawyer to his potential client. There is at least an equal possibility that this lawyer was being genuine and right about his assessment.
Given the reaction of a lawyer who is very experienced in the Canadian Justice System, how precious children are and how fragile human life is, the Canadian Government owe to the Canadian Public an investigation and reassessment of this Judge’s fitness for duty. Anyone who holds this much power must be kept to very high standards and under constant strict checks.
At the very beginning, the fact that the racist Canadian Police had labeled me as the aggressor encouraged the courts to punish me and my 3 months old daughter with cruelty of alienation. At the age of 3 months old, my daughter was forced to live under the conditions of a women’s shelter for 3 months by her own mentally ill mother (assessed by a doctor of pschology) and the Canadian Government. Deprived from her father’s love, attention and care, with no reason.
The alienation efforts of the Canadian Government did not stop there. At the first appearance at the Supreme Court of BC, I was again punished with seeing my own daughter for only 6 hours a week. That is 24 hours a month and 312 hours a year. That, to be exact, adds up to 13 days a year.
13 days a year is clearly not sufficient to develop a meaningful relationship with anyone, let alone with a newborn who should be spending as much time as possible with both her parents to develop into a healthy adult. The motive behind this order is clear as daylight: to separate and alienate my daughter from me, the natural-born wife-beating middle eastern man.
I challenge the Canadian Government to back this decision with a single scientific or medical fact that 6 hours a week with a parent is in the best interest of a newborn. Because, all the psychiatrists and psychologists I have spoken to, in Turkey, in the Netherlands and in Canada, advocate that this is a sure way to scar a child’s psychology for a lifetime. What is this 6 hours a week decision based on?! Science?! Medicine?! Psychology?! Or, how racist and sexist a judge is feeling that particular day?
At a later court session, one of the judges tried to decrease this time to 4 hours a week, however after my firm push back, he backed down from this decision. That is about 8 and a half days a year.
The rate of discrimination accelerated over time and at each step the Canadian Government increased the dose of discrimination and abuse. During the last session I attended at the Supreme Court of BC, after his continuous dismissal of everything I put forward regarding the abuse me and my daughter was being subjected to, I asked the judge what I could do to protect myself against the abuse coming from the Applicant. He responded yelling at me as loud as he could; “You suck it up!”. Not a letter short, not a letter extra.
I am sure this was recorded by the clerk present at the courtroom.
By looking at the reaction of the judge and the tone of this particular writing, one might think I must have done something to anger him. However, the fact is that, back then I still had the illusion that the legal system of Canada was something at least to be respected even though I could not rely upon it, and I was acting accordingly.
The judge was hostile from the very beginning, from the very first opening sentence of mine. His attitude reached a point where I could not even speak. When I pointed this out by saying that “you are making it impossible to defend myself”, the judge was startled. He literally jumped in his seat and changed his posture.
The same judge refused my request for taking care of my daughter instead of sending her to a daycare while I was unemployed to avoid unnecessary costs.
Later on, the same judge ordered me to pay all the remaining funds in my bank account to my ex, even though, because of the unemployment the Canadian Government unrightfully forced on me, I had no income for almost one year at that point.
This was my breaking point, this was the order that forced me to leave the country and leave my 2 and a half years old baby behind. Being already gone through a period of homelessness and starvation, this order meant that I had to leave Canada because I could not afford neither food nor shelter for myself and my daughter. This also meant that I had to go back to my home country, Turkey, where even if I could find a well-paying job, I could not pay any meaningful child support simply due to the value, or rather the lack thereof, the Turkish currency. When I explained the situation to the judge, his response was that me leaving the country would be better for my child than me fooling around.
“Fooling around” was the exact phrase the judge used to describe my unemployment, despite the fact that I had explained to him that I was not allowed to work in Canada due to the Canadian Immigration Office’s unrightful rejection of my permanent residency request and I was trying to fight to win back my right to work.
The same judge added that he does not believe my claim of Canadian Government not allowing me to work to provide for my family. A Supreme Court judge hiding behind the excuse of not knowing the simplest immigration law of his own country, a law publicly accessible via a Google search, to punish someone to abandon his infant child, or a government whose immigration policies are so inhumane that even their own Supreme Court judges cannot believe them to be true. I am having a difficult time deciding which one is more frightening.
The liberty this judge and the ones after him took in punishing a man to abandon his child, a man who is – even in the worst-case scenario, even if every single lie his wife has been telling was true – someone who pushed his violent wife away by holding her from her neck without harming her, a man who is – even in the worst-case scenario – a once in a lifetime offender, in a country where even murderers are allowed to see their children, cannot be explained with anything else but compound discrimination, with the empowerment provided by being a member of a pack whose members’ hands are dirty, hence will have to watch your and their own backs against the others.